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Once I understood joy as a matter of emotional climate, the next question became obvious: why does that climate drift, and why does it sometimes feel like it accelerates in the wrong direction?

The answer turned out to be simpler than I expected.

There’s a well-established way to understand this dynamic. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on how thoughts, moods, behaviors, physical reactions, and environment interact and reinforce one another over time.

• Thoughts: Our thinking, beliefs, and perceptions about ourselves and the world.
• Moods: Our emotional responses and feelings about our thoughts.
• Behaviors: Our actions and reactions in different situations.
• Physical Reactions: How our bodies respond, including stress and tension.
• Environment: The external factors and surroundings that influence us.

Seeing that framework gave language to something I had already experienced.

How the Doom Loop Forms

What I noticed first was that difficult experiences rarely stay isolated.

Something goes wrong. A conversation doesn’t land. A plan fails. A problem drags on longer than expected. The initial pain is real.

What follows is usually more important.

A thought appears: “This shouldn’t be happening.”
→ That thought shifts my mood.
→ The mood affects how I act. Withdrawal, irritation, avoidance.
→ Those behaviors change my environment. Conversations get shorter, opportunities narrow, support fades.
→ The changed environment feeds back into the original thought.

Around it goes.

This is what I came to think of as the Doom Loop: a self-reinforcing cycle where thoughts, moods, behaviors, physical reactions, and environment quietly pull emotional climate toward discontent or sadness.

Nothing dramatic is required. Small interpretations, repeated often, do the work.

Once I could see this pattern, it explained something that had always confused me: why a single bad event could color an entire day or week. It wasn’t the event. It was the direction the system took afterward.

Orientation Is What Sets the Direction

This is where orientation matters.

I don’t choose whether painful events occur. But I do choose, often unconsciously, how I respond toward those events.

Over time, those responses establish my orientation—toward rumination or toward perspective, toward withdrawal or toward engagement—and that orientation determines which way the system starts to move.

Left unattended, familiar thought patterns tend to orient the system toward the sadness side of the Joy Scale. That’s how people get stuck. Not because they choose sadness deliberately, but because the system keeps reinforcing itself in the same direction.

My orientation is the accumulation of responses to the events in my life. It’s the quiet choice that creates momentum.

The Joy Flywheel

The good news is that the same mechanics work in the opposite direction.

A small shift in interpretation or response can improve mood.
→ A slightly better mood leads to healthier behavior.
→ Healthier behavior changes the environment.
→ That environment feeds back into more supportive thinking.

Instead of a loop that pulls downward, you get a flywheel that builds momentum toward contentment or joy.

A flywheel takes effort to start, but once it’s moving, it helps carry itself.

I call this the Joy Flywheel.

The Doom Loop and the Joy Flywheel are built from the same components. The difference isn’t optimism or discipline. It’s orientation. It's which direction the system is being fed.

Where Choice Actually Shows Up

This clarified something important for me.

I didn’t need to overhaul my life. I didn’t need to eliminate negative emotions. I didn’t need to force myself to feel joyful.

What mattered was interrupting the system early before momentum took over.

→ Sometimes that meant noticing a familiar thought and not replaying it.
→ Sometimes it meant choosing a slightly different behavior.
→ Sometimes it meant adjusting the environment to reduce unnecessary friction.

Each change was small. None of them were dramatic. But each one shifted orientation, and over time, that changed the climate.

Why This Matters for Joy

This is why joy is so often misunderstood.

People look for a feeling or an event. What actually determines joy is direction.

If the system is consistently oriented toward sadness, no amount of occasional happiness will counteract it. If the system is oriented toward joy, even difficult days land differently.

Understanding the Doom Loop and the Joy Flywheel made joy feel practical for the first time. Not easy, but understandable.

And once I could see the system at work, awareness itself became leverage.

That’s what comes next.

In the next post, I share the practices that mattered most to me once I understood how this system works.