The Three Practices That Helped Me Find Lasting Joy (series 5 of 6)

This post is Part Five of a six-part series. Get started with Part One.

Once I understood joy as emotional climate, and saw how momentum builds through the Doom Loop and the Joy Flywheel, the problem became more concrete.

I wasn’t looking for a cure or a technique. I was paying attention to what actually shifted the system over time.

Three things consistently had the most influence for me.

Naming and Understanding My Moods

The first place I learned to intervene was at the level of mood.

Moods are emotional weather. They move quickly, respond to specific events, and often pass on their own. But they also shape response. When a mood went unnamed, it tended to steer my behavior without much resistance.

Over time, I learned to slow that process down.

When I noticed myself in a bad mood, I tried to name it accurately and understand what was driving it. Not to fix it immediately, and not to judge it, but to bring it into focus.

That shift mattered. Once a mood was clearly identified, it stopped feeling like the whole landscape. It became one input among many. From there, I could decide whether my default response made sense, or whether it was likely to push the system towards sadness.

Often, that was enough to keep a moment from turning into a day.

Being Intentional About What I Feed Myself

The second place I learned to intervene was more gradual, but no less important.

Over time, I noticed that my emotional climate was strongly influenced by what I consistently exposed myself to. News, conversations, media, people, internal replay, the things I returned to mentally when I wasn’t paying attention.

None of these inputs were neutral.

If I let too much negative or draining material accumulate, my climate tilted away from joy. Even when I thought I was “handling it,” the effect showed up eventually.

So I became more deliberate about my balance sheet. I didn’t try to eliminate difficult input, but I made sure it wasn’t the only thing feeding the system.

I started looking for ways to add positive input to offset the negative. What that looked like varied over time. For some people it’s prayer, affirmations, or meditation. For others it’s music, reading, time outside, or intentional reflection. The form wasn’t the point. The function was.

The goal was simple: not letting negative input dominate unchecked.

Editing My Environment

The third place I learned to intervene was external.

By environment, I mean the physical and social context that shapes daily life: spaces, routines, habits, schedules, people, and patterns of interaction. These things don’t just exist. Many of them are the result of past responses.

Left alone, they tend to keep reinforcing the same loops.

So I started looking at my environment with a different question in mind: What here makes certain responses easier than others?

Some spaces made withdrawal effortless. Some routines favored distraction. Some commitments quietly kept me in reactive mode.

Small changes here had outsized effects. When the environment shifted, certain loops lost momentum without requiring constant attention.

Why These Mattered Most to Me

What these practices had in common is that they operated at different points in the same system.

→ Naming moods affected the moment.
→ Managing input shaped the day.
→ Editing the environment influenced the long run.

I didn’t apply them consistently or perfectly. I still don’t. But over time, they changed the direction the system tended to drift.

Not dramatically. Gradually.

And that gradual shift made joy feel less accidental and more accessible. Not because I chased it, but because I paid attention to the things that kept pulling me away from it.

In the final post, I step back and reflect on how these ideas changed my experience of joy over time.